A Mother’s Day Remembrance

From my Mother’s grave you can see the golden Californian hills.  Facing the rising sun you can see the grass-covered hills of the coast range.  On a clear day you can see the observatory at the top of the mountian.  The road leading to the top is where mother learned to drive, and where I went camping with the Boy Scouts.

The cemetery mother is buried in dates from 1839 – one of the oldest in California.  When I walk among the headstones, I remember the past – sorrows, joys and people I once walked with.  My grandparents are buried here and in the older sections other more distant relatives are laid to rest.  Once set far out in the country, away from homes and businesses, the cemetery is now fenced in by condos, shopping malls and busy roads.


My mother was a traveler.  Give her a car and a little gas money and she’d be gone down the road looking for the other side of the mountain.  When I was a child, she often took me on her trips.  Every summer I remember being packed in the car with camping gear, boxes of canned good and an old beat up ice-chest and away we’d go seeking some speck on the map.  Some place we had never been.

When I was in the sixth grade, we studied California history at school and I made a model of a California Spanish Mission out of sugar cubes.  Well, not a whole mission – as I recall I only did one wall and part of fence made from Popsicle sticks.  I did do a long written report that I received good marks for.  Mother always tried her best to reward good school work and decided that we do a special trip that summer.

I was twelve that summer and it was only going to be mother and me traveling. My brothers had moved away from home and father’s alcoholism consumed all his free time.  Mother decided that the trip to do was to take me to see a real California Spanish Mission.

Well, not one Mission, but all 21 missions.  After all if you’re going to learn a subject you might as well study it fully.

The California Mission system was built by the Franciscan order starting in 1769.  The missions were part of the Spanish colonization of the Alta California region – an area that now includes the coastal area from San Diego to Sonoma County just north of San Francisco. The missions were used to convert the native tribes to Catholicism, take control of the land and provide both religious and military control of Alta California as a part of the Spanish colonization of the area.

A major component of this was the “El Camino Real.”  If you visit California, you’re bound to see this street name and the signs for it along many parts of the coast.  Roughly translated, El Camino Real, is “The King’s Way,” “The Royal Road,” or “King’s Highway.”  The missions are spaced out along this road roughly 30 miles apart – a long day’s ride on horse back or a three-day walk.  The idea was to provide a road from communications and travel with accommodations along the route.  It was possible at the height of the mission period to ride a horse all the way from San Diego to San Francisco in about three weeks while staying in a nice comfortable mission each night.

This is what my mother decided I should see first hand so we loaded the car and headed south to San Diego.  There we took our only detour from the mission of seeing the Missions and went to see both Sea World and the San Diego zoo.  Then we located Mission San Diego and started north along the old route of El Camino Real.

It was a very long time ago and my memories of the trip are a bit vague.  I can recall only bits and pieces.  I remember the big coffee table book of California Missions that mother had and how it became our reference book.  I remember the box of AAA maps that mother had gotten to navigate us.  Mother was generally hopeless about finding her way and we spent a lot of time lost.  I learned to read a map very well on that trip – mostly out of self-defense.

Most days we’d see two or three missions and then camp at a State Park for the night.  Maybe two or three times we stayed at a motel when mother needed to do our laundry.  Breakfast was most often cereal, lunch usually a sandwich and dinner came from a can – sometimes we’d open two cans.

The missions were varied – most were (and are today) working churches with the original buildings fully preserved or restored.  Some missions had fallen into ruins.  At some there were tours.  At some just signs.  I recall being at one were mother and I had just returned to our car when an older couple came up and asked us if there was a tour for the place.  Mother said there wasn’t but that there was a little pamphlet they could pickup just inside for the self guided tour.  Then mother sent me off to get one for them.  I don’t recall exactly how it happened but I ended up acting as tour guide for the couple (they must have been in their late sixties) – giving all my best sixth grade information on the missions.  I wish I could remember their reaction to me, but I suspect they were amused by the little kid who knew so much and was so helpful.

I do recall getting a box of cookies for my troubles.

Troubles, well we had those on the trip too.  Mother’s car was a piece of junk and I was one of the few twelve-year olds who knew how to check the oil, tire pressure and water level in the radiator (and when you could and couldn’t open the radiator cap).  My older brother had drilled me on basic car repairs before the trip, gave me a small box of basic tools and even made me practice changing a tire.  Honest, he parked mother’s car on the street, showed me how to use the jack and take off the lug nuts.  He then made me do the whole thing.  I never did find out if he was acting on his own or if mother put him up to it (and he still refuses to say).

We were coming over the Grapevine pass on interstate 5  just out of L.A. when the right rear tire blew out.  Mother managed to keep the car in control and got us to the shoulder.  I got out and started to take out the camping gear so I could get to the spare tire.  I don’t recall mother asking me to change the tire or me saying anything, I just got out and got to work.
Next to the freeway was frontage road and just as I was starting to set up the bumper jack a man in a pickup truck stopped and called out, “You need help there, son?”

“No Thanks,” I called back

Then he saw my mother, got out of his truck, jumped over the barbed-wire fence separating us and said, “Ma’am, this isn’t the best place to be changing a tire.  You’re boy seems to know what he’s doing, but he seems a little small to be throwing tires around on the freeway. I’d be happy to change that tire for him.”

Mother thanked the man and told him how my brother taught me to change a tire but she agreed it would be better for him to do it.  When he was done and the car repacked, mother offered to pay the man $5.00 (this was ’72 and it was lot of money, at least a day’s worth of food or a tank of gas).  He refused, but mother insisted he take something.  In the end he took a half a bag of stale cookies before driving off.

Don’t think that I lost my chance to change a tire – three days later just outside Monterey  we ran over a nail on seldom used back road (I told mother to make a left and she went right, but that’s a story for another day) and I proved my skill with jack and wrench.

The trip ended at Fort Ross – the southern most Russian settlement in California.  After all, reasoned mother, the Spanish weren’t the only ones trying to colonize California at the time.

This was one of the last road trips mother and I took together.  Our return home bought a return to the problems of life and too soon I was growing up.  School, career, life overtook the simple joys of the road and just looking for the other side of the mountain.

Till next week,

About Andrew Reynolds

Born in California Did the school thing studying electronics, computers, release engineering and literary criticism. I worked in the high tech world doing software release engineering and am now retired. Then I got prostate cancer. Now I am a blogger and work in my wood shop doing scroll saw work and marquetry.
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5 Responses to A Mother’s Day Remembrance

  1. Marv says:

    I enjoyed your story. It’s ironic that on the same day, an article appeared in the Mercury News about the missions. Although negatively slanted, the basics of the article are true. I’m reading a book of that period. First a narrative is given, followed by the chronicle written by the actual historical person. Father Serra will never be a saint because he beat the Indians.

    My first trip over the Grapevine was before I-5 when it really was a “grapevine”.


    • Andrew says:

      Well, you sell more papers with negative sensationalism. Whether we like it or not, the missions were a key in the shaping of California. Sadly not everything the missions did was good but it wasn’t wholly evil either – there’s a lot between the extremes.

      and as I recall, the central valley portion of I-5 hadn’t been open long (months maybe) when mother and I crossed the grapevine.


  2. bronxboy55 says:

    Great story, Andrew. I knew about the missions, but have always assumed they were just scattered around California with no real plan behind them. Your description makes much more sense.


    • Andrew says:

      The mission system was very well planned and designed. The Spanish who established the system knew what they wanted, planned well and mostly did what they set out to do. Until the Mexican revolution, that is.

      For good and ill, California is still largely shaped by their plans. For example, Highway 101, which runs the length of the state through the major coastal cities follows the general route of El Camino Real. Most City names are simply the name of the mission that they established there.


  3. Heather R says:

    Good post though I see you missed your editor;)


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