Where to Start?

The question on my mind to day is where to start telling the story of our trip to England, Paris and London. Today I’ve been looking at the video clips I took on my little Flip cam and some of the still shots I took, plus I’ve been typing up Heather’s trip journal. I want to tell a great story about this trip as it has been important to me for a number of reasons.

I have to say that I’ve found this trip to be a bit overwhelming and sorting through all the events and emotions is daunting. Where to start the tale?

I could start with the flight to London or with our grandson arriving in town. Perhaps I should describe our preparations and planning. But I think the place to start is why we went. By nature I am a homebody and don’t possess the same wonder-lust that my mother had. I’ll travel occasionally and do enjoy it when I do but it does take a bit of motivation to get me out the door.

Some time ago my wife told me that she’d like to show her grandkids where she grew up in England. She still has family there and it is important to her that the grandkids know more about where she came from. I agreed with that from the moment she mentioned it. After some discussion we decided that when the oldest grandson reached 16 we’d take him over and perhaps have a few days in London to show him the sights.

That year is this year and last fall we started planning with a mind to spring the invitation during Christmas. We had made a few changes to our original plan by extending how long we were willing to stay and adding a new destination, Paris. Our grandson was studying French in school and with Paris just a train ride away we figured why not put the offer out there.

In the midst of these conversations my world fell apart. Just a three weeks before Christmas I got the call – prostate cancer and you need to be treated now. Cancer is a loaded word and it had just exploded in my face with all its unknowns and fears. How difficult would the treatment be? Is it curable? What will I lose?

And important to this trip, “Would I be healthy enough to travel?”

I was convinced that grandmother and grandson should travel no matter what happened to me and I asked other family members to stand in if I couldn’t go. We did discuss the situation with my medical team. They assured me that I would be fully able to travel in June. I was less than confident, but we went ahead and sprang the news to our grandson after Christmas dinner.

The offer was enthusiastically accepted and Paris became central to the tour.

I’ll admit that Paris has never been on my list of places I wanted to go. My mother traveled there in the 70’s and nothing in her accounts or pictures ever made me put Paris on my list. But this trip wasn’t all about me and I knew that no matter where I went I’d find something that would interest me.

What this trip was really about was giving a gift. A gift from grandparents to a grandson to show him the world beyond the confines of his home town with the hope that it would expand his horizon.

It has even become a gift to myself – a way to deal with my unknowable future. It has become the here and now that I can do – a thing I am capable of – an adventure still to be had. It is both a way of healing and a way to hold the future at bay. There is still some strength left in me and desire to see and learn more. While that remains true there is life left to live.

And there are other grandchildren in the family and plenty of other cities and sights left to see.

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Back From an Adventure

I just got back for an exciting adventure.  Two weeks ago my wife and I took our 16-year-old grandson on a trip to Paris with stops in England and London.  Mostly we had a great time but had our share of trauma too.  I had never had a desire to visit Paris but now that I have been there I am glad I made the trip.

I’ve got a million things running through my brain about this trip but what exactly to write about has been eluding me since we returned on Tuesday.  There is so much that happened and so much that we saw that it is impossible to write a nice neat 850 word essay on the experience.  I’ll be doing a number of posts to cover the whole trip.

We brought back a lot of memories, some good and some bad.  Heather has over 1,000 pictures and I’ve got close to 175 video clips plus we bought a few souvenirs.  Mostly we bought books and gifts but also a couple of things for ourselves.

I am not sure I can explain the one special gift I got for myself but here goes:  We were in this little gift shop in the Montmartre area of Paris shopping for little gifts to give to family.  Heather was helping our grandson find gifts to give to his family when I found a rack of music box movements.  Not a music box, just the mechanism that makes the music. There was a huge selection of tunes and I scanned through the titles until I found one that said, “Yesterday.” I thought it odd that they would have a Beetles tune for a music box but when I turned the handle it was that old familiar tune – one of my favorite.

Looking at the thing I knew I had to have it.  And I know that I have to make a box for it.

There is now way for me to explain why I am attracted to this little song but listening to it takes my brain to an old familiar place – a place that is warm and safe.  A place that is comforting.  As I stood in the store turning the little handle I could feel it drawing me to that place.

My wife then showed me some of the things our grandson was going to get when I showed them my find and said I was going to get it for me.  For reasons I don’t understand my grandson offered to buy it for me.

I didn’t think about it again until we returned home and were unpacking our treasures.  The little music movement now sits on my desk.  I’ve been thinking about what kind of box I am going to build for it and from time to time pick it up and turn the handle.  Sometimes it makes me smile.  Sometimes makes me feel a bit wistful and sometimes I feel a tear wanting to start.

It’s why I am writing this post.  I was typing Heather’s journal of our trip (going to use it to help figure out the trip video I am editing) when it caught my eye again and I had to turn the little handle.

Perhaps it the memories it brings back.  Memories of youth and of friends long ago.  As I age and my health changes my memories become more valuable and sometimes I do, “long for yesterday.”

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A Story of WWII from My Father

My father was a great story-teller.  He had a story for every occasion and could enthrall an audience with his wit and humor.  His memory and stories often come to my mind this time of year with memorial day just past and the anniversary of the WWII D-Day invasion just coming up this next week on the 6th.  He could take the simplest event and spin an engaging story about it – often with a punch line.  The story always had a point, either humor or something he was trying to teach.

When I was a boy I especially liked his Army stories.  Father served in WWII as a radar maintenance man in the 279th Army Coast Artillery Corp in the Aleutian Islands.  He repaired and operated the SRC-296 gun sighting radar and later the SCR-584.  He served time on different islands but most often talked about Attu. Shemya and Kiska.  He was always bit fuzzy about the exact dates he served but I dug though an old box of his things and found his discharge papers.

He was drafted December 1942 and entered service on January 6, 1943 at the age of 18, just a few days short of his 19th birthday (a birthday he celebrated on a troop train).  He was then sent to basic training and radar school.  He was sent to the Aleutians in September 43, likely with the first build up of garrison troops after the recapture of Attu. His unit was charged with the defense of the harbor and coast in the event of a Japanese invasion.

My father never really cared much about the bigger picture in his stories – as a solider and technician 5th grade he only saw the war from inside a radar shack.  His stories were told from that perspective.

One of my favorite stories was the day a captain did a briefing for the radar team on the defense plan for the island (I believe father was on Shemya at this time).

Just a little background on my father’s job in the Army.  The 296 radar was a gun laying set.  It helped the artillery battery site and target its guns but there were also what was called, “base end stations” which were basically observation post that could also be used to target the guns.  The radar was mostly used for night or foggy conditions when visibility was poor.  Target observations from both the end stations and the radar were fed to the plotting room where the artillery officer did the needed calculations for firing the guns and directed the firing by telephone.  The radar hut was slightly inland and just above the hut was a tower that housed the radar antenna (dad said the thing looked like a water tower and could be confused as one from a distance but he knew a good radio man on a ship would figure out what it really was).

So the story father told went something like this:

“The Army is very complete in making plans for all contingencies and emergencies.  You see, in an emergency you’ve got to know what you’re suppose to do without having to think about it.  You just have to react and do what you are trained to do.  You don’t have time to figure it out.

Well one day this captain came down to brief our unit on the plan to defend the island in case of a Jap invasion.  We hadn’t see even a Jap sub in weeks but headquarters needed to have a plan on file so we had to sit through the briefing.  Here was the captain said we radar men were to do in case of an invasion:

  1. Operate the radar set and feed target information to the plotting room until the antenna is destroyed.
  2. Then move to the power house and keep electrical power running for as long as possible.
  3. Go to the plotting room and help out with plotting until the base end stations are knocked out or all the artillery is silenced.
  4. Draw weapons and fall back to the airfield.
  5. Defend the airfield until the last airplane takes off.
  6. All base operations cease when the last airplane leaves the runway.

The captain asked if there were any questions and I had one, “Captain, do you mean that we are still on the ground when the last airplane leaves?  How do we get evacuated?”

To which the captain replied, “Reynolds, what the hell are you worried about?  You’ll most likely be killed in the first salvo the Japs send a shell into that radar antenna you sit under.  You’ll be long dead before any airplanes leave this base.”

You see I was a bit worried about be captured since we been told that radar was still a big secret and I thought they wouldn’t want me to fall into enemy hands.  That when I realized that in the plan I was highly likely to be killed at each step.  If they shelled the power house I’d be inside same thing at the plot room. So I just stopped worrying about invasion plans and knew the captain was right.  I had nothing to worry about.”

After the story father would either go on to lecture me how important it is to have a plan and know what could happen you.  Or he’d lecture me on why we shouldn’t make plans for events that aren’t really likely.  On a couple of occasions he talked about waste of war and how the cold hard reality of combat made an airplane more valuable that a single man.  He always seemed to have an unspoken anti-war twist to his stories as if the point he was trying to make to me was to be against war.

That was the strange thing about my father’s stories – he could make one fit just about any message he wanted to give.  Of course sometimes he just told stories to be a story-teller.  I’ve often thought that he told this story to complain about Army life.

After all one of the few privileges of the enlisted man is to complain.

Or so my father told me.

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An Update or My Third Greatest Fear Revisited

In March I posted that my life long barber retired due to poor health.

Well today it finally happened – the annoyance of my hair growing too long outweighed my fear of going to a new barber.  Yes friends I got my haircut by a different barber.

It wasn’t the same but in the end I got a decent haircut and enjoyed the basic barber/customer banter.

In the meandering conversation that you have in barber chair I discovered that my new barber was treated for prostate cancer six years ago – with radiation.  Turns out we were treated at the same clinic.

I like this guy and now I have a barber.

So there you have it – one of life’s traumas dealt with.

 

See the original post here: My Third Greatest Fear

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